How much would you pay to kiss this...?

Dear Controversy Monster,

I couldn't help but notice the drama surrounding Charlize Theron kissing another woman for charity. The lovely actress auctioned off a 25-second kiss to the highest bidder -- and got a whopping 140,000 dollars from another woman.

I myself have no issue with this; it was only a kiss and it was for charity, but there has been a firestorm surrounding the event, mostly with people sneering that she was behaving like a "lesbian whore" or that "our children don't need to see that".

What exactly are the "children" seeing? It was a kiss! And I'm sure your kids have seen people kissing before, so is the issue really that it was a woman kissing another woman, as opposed to a man? If some man had paid 140,000 to kiss Theron, would this be an issue?

Or, better yet, if it had been another attractive actress, instead of a normal looking women, would people mind? If, for example, Olive Wilde had paid the money, how would the reaction be different? Wouldn't more people be talking about how "steamy" and "hot" it was?

When I first saw the kiss I didn't think anything gay or homophobic about it; I simply saw it and silently agreed in my head that I would willingly give 140,000 to kiss her! The fact that is has been attacked with homophobic jests and comments on how she is "now a lesbian" and a "slut" really tells the world a whole lot about you.

If anything is disgusting here it's your ignorance and the fact that you opened your mouth to voice your "concerns". From the moment it hit the press, the issue has never been about concern for kids, or any other such thing.

Attack it if you must, but how dare you hide behind "concerns for the kids" and pretend the issue isn't with you. If you are going to be so bold as to make an ill-thought comment, the least you could do is stick to your guns and come out swinging; at least I could admire a small part of you for that.

With love,
A Woman Made of Dust

For the trillionth time...

I am sorry for not posting regularly lately! It's seems to be have been the weeks from hell, and I simply haven't had any time!

But that should be changing, and I'm going to get a post up this weekend, for sure. I'm not going to let myself get out of it.

However, I do have to change my green and ill-thought-out promise of posting "four to five times a week" to posting "once, maybe twice a week". I think this blog would do well as a weekly one, and that way I can have a dedicated schedule I can't back out of.

So, again, to my followers and friends, I'm sorry for being absent this last week or two, and not reading any of your blogs, either! Saturday will forever be my POST DAY, unless I have a Saturday workshop that week, in which case it will be a Friday or Sunday post.

Thanks!

With love,
A Woman Made of Dust

John and Kate plus who gives a fuck

Dear John and Kate,

I'm coming to you not as a 20-something who hates you or as a lonely no-body who has nothing better to do than get off on your misery; rather, I'm coming to you as a parent.

Granted, I'm not a parent myself, but I am helping to raise three beautiful kids, and they do treat me as a second mom, so I feel that gives me the slightest bit of authority to talk about the matter of your kids. I mean, no on else seems to give a damn about them, so I might as well!

I see your two ugly faces all over the news, calling each other a "bitch" or a "whore" or a "douche" or this and that and then I hear you both rush out, "All I care about is my kids!"

Really? Really?!

That's so funny that you say that because, honestly, if you hadn't pointed it out to me I would have never guessed you actually care about your kids. I mean, you both try your very hardest to publicly humiliate each other, air each others dirty laundry, and then drag your kids along to sit and listen as you do the interview.

It's so weird, really, because I myself would never in a million years do that the my kids. Because I love them and wouldn't want them growing up listening to people who don't even know them, much less know their parents, make judgments and "speculations" about their lives. I would die before I made it possible for my kid to stumble on a video talking about what a "bitch" their mother is or what a "dick" their father is.

And any self respecting journalist or reporter should have the decency to honor that! If the parents are willing to put their kids through hell for money and five more minutes in the spot light, the people who are giving them that time to shine should put their foot down. They should refuse to interview them or even cover anything involving them because it just fans the flames.

I know it's a business about money and ratings, but it sickens me to think people are willing to watch children suffer because of it. It makes me angry even thinking about my own kids being in that situation, because they are the silent victims. They can't give interviews or get paid millions of dollars to tell their story, and so we don't hear.

If at anytime you were ever parents to those kids, John and Kate, now would be the time to show it. By keeping your dirty laundry to yourself. And if your morals are so low as human beings you can't do that, not even for the sake of eight kids, then the "journalists" and reporters out there should slam the door in your face.

With love,
A Woman Made of Dust